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When most of us hear the word abuse we think of something very extreme, such as punching or kicking. Of course this is abuse and is never an acceptable way of expressing anger or frustration, but abuse takes forms other than the physical.
The following is partial list of abuse techniques. Think about your relationship - how many of them are familiar to you? If you recognize 5 or more, you may be in an abusive relationship.
Physical
__ hugging when unwanted
__ kicking
__ punching
__ pulling, pushing
__ slapping
__ arm twisting
__ pushing / held up against the wall
__ squeezing hand & arm
__ stopping you from leaving
__ hitting with objects
__ picking her up
__ pulling hair
Financial
__ withholding money
__ spending money beyond means
__ making the financial decisions
__ any unwanted physical contact
__ not spending money on special occasions i.e. birthday
Sexual
__ forcing you to have sex (rape)
__ total lack of intimacy
__ hounding you for sex
__ being rough
__ using sex as a basis for arguments
__ treating you as a sex object
__ intimidation by knowledge or reputation
__ pornography
Social
__ not taking responsibility for children
__ embarrassment in front of children
__ not letting you see friends or family
__ keeping you busy in the kitchen during a party
__ change of personality with others
__ making a scene
__ not being nice to friends
Environmental
__ locking you in
__ taking the phone
__ checking your emails/phone calls
__ harming pets
__ slamming doors
__ breaking things
Emotional/Verbal
__ insulting you
__ name calling
__ verbal threats
__ playing mind games
__ intimidation
__ silence
__ turning the situation against you
__ treating you like a child
__ refusing to do things with you or for you
__ walking away from you in a discussion
__ inappropriate expression of jealousy
__ laughing in your face
__ finding and verbalizing your faults
__ not telling you what he is doing
__ refusing to deal with issues
__ lying
__ never really forgiving
__ degrading you
__ requiring you to dress a certain way
__ woman hating jokes
__ taking away your responsibilities
__ making threats to kill himself
__ not passing on messages
__ starting arguments
Spiritual
__ not allowing you to access your place of worship
__ ridiculing your beliefs
__ making children/family attend his place of worship
__ using your beliefs to keep you in the relationship
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